It’s that time of year again! We are bombarded with advertisements, photos of smiling people and happy family gatherings, Christmas music and movies, invitations to parties, etc. For some people, like my partner, this is an exciting time, something he looks forward to all year long. For others, it is a time of pain and dread. I am somewhere in between.
Not everyone has family they love and with whom they want to spend time. Some people do not even have many friends. There are people who are mourning losses of people, pets or homes. Or people who don’t have happy memories of childhood and the holidays.
There have been Christmases that I spent literally alone. Sometimes that was a choice, other times not. While I am fortunate now to have a wonderful life partner and loving and supportive friends, I can’t say that I love this time of year. It makes me sad for a variety of reasons. It doesn’t help that I am Highly Sensitive, had a painful childhood, and despise the cold and dark.
I can participate in the festivities, but am honestly glad when the whole thing is over. It’s OK if you feel the same way. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not alone. Try not to get swept up in all of the marketing and fantasy. Participate when you want to and decline when you don’t. Or perhaps volunteer in some way to help others who feel alone and/or are mourning. Or don’t do that either. No guilt, no pressure.